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Beaumont
Hall
Simon was
nine years old when he arrived at Beaumont Hall; it was
to be his new place of learning. His father had been
made the Ambassador to a new fledgling country in
Africa, whilst his mother, the now world renowned
scientist Doctor April Garvey, was needed on an endless
circuit of lectures. Her book, The Noble Nobel Factor,
had proved quite provocative in the field of academia.
Simon’s loving
father didn’t think it appropriate to drag his son away
from England to his new posting, the country was still
quite volatile so that had to be taken into account.
Although he knew of several private schools in South
Africa that had his approval and would have made him a
little closer, he definitely wanted an education for his
son that would reflect the family’s sensibilities.
Meanwhile, his doting mother was unable to prevent the
avalanche of both praise and condemnation her book
provoked. She knew she had to defend all she claimed and
having her son, her sweet adoring son, around would
cause problems that could easily be solved.
His doting
parents enrolled him at the one school they were sure
he’d feel safe and secure, the one school they knew he’d
settle in without any trauma. Beaumont Hall had a
select admittance policy and a fantastic reputation.
Although an all-boys establishment, it was run on a
benevolent, almost Quaker-style, concept of love,
freedom, understanding and personal development. Instead
of some aged Latin motto etched in crumbling stonework
over the impressive facade was the simple missive –
Be kind to one another.
Beaumont Hall
was similar, yet different, to any other boarding school
in the UK. The impressive building had the first stone
laid towards the end of Elizabeth the First’s reign, and
was the centrepiece of the Beaumont-Saxby Estate. The
large imposing structure had over the years been added
to, repaired, redeveloped and, against all modern trends
adapted to its new life as a place of education. Even
the driveway up to the building, through an imposing
gated entrance that circled along an avenue of high
trees before the Hall was reached, had become a feature
of historical, engineering and arboretum note.
The estate
itself was quite impressive, containing working farms of
arable and animal, a couple of villages, stables and a
thousand acre forest. The commanding and far reaching
estate had in the past a number of important
titleholders but, when it was acquired by the Rushforth
Education Foundation (REF) in the mid-1990s, the entire
estate was targeted at learning and the development of
the country’s children. Although it might have seemed it
was only educating the off-spring of the rich, this was
by no means the case as bursaries were given out to many
who could ill afford such exclusive tutorage. This was
not the case for Simon Garvey, both of his parents had
influence and been involved in this educational project
to some degree for many years so his acceptance was a
foregone conclusion.
The only reason
he wasn’t already a boarder at this prestigious place
was that his parents were based in London and was
educated locally. Now their circumstances had changed,
and both parents would be out of the country a great
deal of the time, proved an opportunity to send Simon to
the place they thought he’d thrive best.
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At 10am, the
Saturday before the start of a new term, Simon, like the
rest of the yearly intake, had been left, after many
tears, sad farewells and gentle coercion in the capable
care of the teachers and staff at the stately home. He
was among five new students who were taking up
availability in the Year 4 group, although the school
also greeted the latest Year 3 intake. This group of
eight year-olds boys were just starting their climb up
the educational ladder.
Rooms were
allocated, four students per room; with bed, desk,
chair, dresser and cupboard for each individual. Common
rooms, entertainment and study areas were dotted around
the building although the large dining area was for all
students, of all ages, to eat together. Older boys were
encouraged to eat with younger pupils and a healthy mix
of ages could be found in lively chat during meals.
There was nothing formal or regimented for any of the
meals the school offered - noise, conversation,
friendship and geniality were encouraged.
The entire
concept of the school was based on a secular vision of
the world. So people who sent their children to Beaumont
Hall shared that ideal.
Behind the
ancient edifice was a large modern development of
several buildings which contained a swimming pool,
indoor sports courts and gym. There were also several
playing fields and a race track. Aligned close to the
ancient architecture were the newer dormitories that led
by covered archways into the greatly refurbished and
impressive structure. Here the large ex-servant’s
quarters had been revamped and renovated as a dormitory
for all first year students who were housed together.
Also dotted around the place were staff quarters for
those who lived in.
The school
operated on a boarding basis and pupils arrived at the
age of eight and stayed until they were sixteen and had
taken their exams. If further education was desired then
Universities, colleges or apprenticeships were found for
those who wanted such positions. There was also a
satellite school on the coast where pupils from 16 to 18
were housed if specialist further education was desired.
One of the school’s main principles was that students
are responsible for those in the year below. A ‘big
brother’, but not in the Orwell sense, was promoted as
the way a school should operate.
With - Be
kind to one another - the simple doctrine, no
boy needed to feel left out, bullied or at a
disadvantage. It was a creed that worked and every
student made it his duty to care for and comfort anyone
found in any kind of distress.
Beaumont Hall
was ahead of its time as a place of excellence with a
Utopian flare.
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After the new
class of eight year-olds had been given their induction,
shown the large dorm they would all share for the first
year, beds allocated and timetables announced it was the
turn of the new nine year-olds. Being only five newbies
the Housemaster was quick to inaugurate the boys to
their new routine; two new boys in one room with two
returning boys and three in another room sharing with
one other. The philosophy of Beaumont Hall was simple -
there would always be someone around to show any new boy
the ropes or answer any queries. For those in their
first year at Beaumont Hall there was always nurse to
administer any medication and prepare them for bed.
Come bedtime,
Simon and the rest of the new arrivals were in for a
shock. The policy of the school was all newcomers wore a
nappy to sleep in for the first few weeks. This was not
to humiliate them, nothing could be further from the
truth; the school simply didn’t want them worrying about
those first few intimidating nights away from home.
“But, but,
but I don’t need to wear a nappy, I’m, I’m not a baby I
can go to the toilet...”
Simon wasn’t alone in his stammered protest as nurse
asked them to strip for that first night.
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Over the years
it had been accepted that the strange surroundings, new
people, different procedures and the building itself
often produced a daunting atmosphere for the newest
members of the faculty. Together with not having
familiar items or parents around to placate such fears,
these new anxieties often transferred to many of the
youngster’s becoming bedwetters. So as not to embarrass
those who did succumb to such accidents it was thought
best to treat all newcomers the same.
With ‘everyone
in it together’ there was support and solidarity from
each other and the older, more established boys were
eager to add their reassurance to the newcomers. No one
was subjected to anything but encouragement and
assistance. No one needed to feel put upon or at a
disadvantage because no boy’s need (or not) of a nappy
was made an obstacle to personal development. Despite
the numerous protests from among the young voices, many
boys found the comfort of a thick nappy the ideal way as
coping with the change of being away from home and clung
on to its reassuring presence for as long as possible.
So, when that
first bedtime came around the novices were initially
sent to the school nurse and her staff to have a nappy
affixed for the night. A pair of soft white vinyl pants
covered the thick fabric and a pale blue school onesie
was then fastened under their crotch to hold everything
together. Everyone was dressed the same, so looked the
same, so no one could complain or be at an advantage. A
few of the new boys objected and complained that they
were potty-trained and would have no problem. However,
that argument was not entertained for the first month as
all the boys were treated the same and absolutely no
stigma attached to this process.
The system
proved correct as many new boys woke up to a soaked
nappy but thankfully, a dry bed. There was no criticism
for those who used their nappies just positive
reinforcement from the nurses that they were good boys
and should be proud of themselves.
It was to every
boy’s credit that after the first couple of days of
perhaps resenting such action, they inevitably settled
down and accepted this rule. It could be because the
ambience in general was of calm and unifying commitment
to each other. As the boys bedtime approached, games and
TV watching was slowly reduced so that their brains were
not still hectic when the lights went out. Soft,
relaxing music was played to lull minds and promote
sleep. A minimum of ten hours was the required amount
for each pupil. Even the older boys found the routine
benefited their concentration levels and few flouted
their age-related bedtime rule.
However, and
this was what was perhaps unique about the school,
nappies could be worn by anyone at any time. There were
no hang-ups or detrimental accusations or comments for
anyone who preferred to keep the comfort found by such
an item.
It was another
of those progressive and possibly counterintuitive
factors that the school had discovered over the
relatively brief time it had been in operation; there
was a wonderful security in wearing a nappy that
students of all ages appreciated. This was made
abundantly clear because each and every toilet always
had a pile of fresh, clean nappies, plastic pants,
wipes, creams and powder available for any person who
wanted them. A nappy pail was also there to ease
disposal of any soiled article.
The school had a
uniform – navy blue shorts, pale blue shirt, school tie,
pale blue socks and black shoes. All boys wore shorts
until they became a teenager. At thirteen, on their
birthday, they could, had they been supplied by their
parents, decide to wear long trousers. It was one of
those points when a young lad felt that he was growing
up and needed the psychological boost such a piece of
clothing might provide.
However, even
though long trousers were allowed, it was perhaps more
interesting that even the eldest students often choose
to continue their education wearing shorts. For some it
was an act of bravado, for others it was clinging to
their youthful spirit and for others it was simply a
preference and quite practical - it was common to
outgrow long pants before it was a pair of shorts.
Whatever the reason, and whether a boy wore shorts or
long trousers, no one thought any better or worse
because of what you wore or the reasons behind it.
It was not
unusual to see a thick nappy and plastic protection
visible above the waistband of even the eldest student.
It also had to be admitted that nappies and shorts were
worn by a large minority of students well after their
need for them. It was also not uncommon to see groups of
every age playing and socialising together. The only
area where this was perhaps less obvious were in school
sports where it wouldn’t have been physically
appropriate to have a seven year-old battling with a
sixteen year-old.
However, where
possible integration was the key word and the school had
an excellent reputation for producing athletes and
sportsmen up to semi and professional level. One of the
reasons for this was the encouragement of all boys to
find an outlet for their youthful exuberance.
Sport, theatre
and music were the main beneficiaries but so were
engineering, carpentry, farming and cooking. It had an
active and popular environmental group called The
Beaumont Boys, a cross between scouting,
orienteering and community involvement, where boys were
taught how social interaction was a way forward and of
benefit to any profession they ended going in to.
It wasn’t
unknown for groups of shorts-clad boys in their
identifiable school colours, leading the clean-up
campaign on the sea shore, river banks or public
woodland. A village or organisation would smile in
relief if they were told that a group of Beaumont Boys
were on their way, it meant that things would get done
quickly and efficiently. They were always a welcome
addition to any activity.
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Like the rest of
the newcomers Simon thought this all very strange but,
as his parents had said how wonderful the place was, he
went along with it all. Getting ready for that first
night and that first nappy had been quite an occasion.
He wasn’t alone in his trepidation but roomy Alex, who’d
been there a year, and who still preferred to wear
protection, promised that if he just went along with it,
he’d soon see the benefits.
That first night
was weird but as many of the boys had changed into their
night time protection before lights out, socialising in
their onesies was not uncommon. As all ages were allowed
to wear the same... the common rooms were a place where
worries, fear and shyness were quickly turned on their
heads.
There may have
been some concern to begin with, in fact, the newbies
huddled together for support, but once they saw that
everyone was alike it was amazing how quickly they
integrated. It helped that there was a cheery word of
welcome for all.
Some of the
younger boys still had their security teddy bears or
stuffed animals with them and there was no disgrace to
be seen walking around carrying it. In fact, later in
the first school term there was an evening ‘teddy-bears’
picnic and everyone was encouraged to bring along their
bedtime friend to join in a night of fun, food and
games.
This wasn’t
restricted to the first year... and it was amazing just
how many of the boys had kept (and loved) their
childhood companions. Many social events; treasure
hunts, karaoke contests, sports days, camps out, night
sky observations and off course all the usual holiday
and festive events were covered.
If these took
place after the evening meal then all boys were got
ready for bed before the communal fun and frolics began.
This was so the nursing staff could also take part,
which meant that fresh nappies often billowed out from
tight onesies. As it was the same for everyone... it
didn’t make the slightest difference. Hardly a week went
by without something being organised to amuse and engage
every student. Each event was always fun and
entertaining.
#
Although nervous
to begin with Simon soon settled into the rhythm of
school. As it turned out, the implementation of nappy
wearing for all newcomers had proved to be a wise
directive because half the first graders woke up wet or
soiled and three of the five second graders (of whom
Simon was one) also woke up experiencing a very sodden
nappy.
Even those who
managed to stay dry that first night were glad that they
had some protection as they felt more secure in such
strange surroundings. None of the boys were made to feel
in anyway disadvantaged by their experience. Indeed,
there was a great deal of support from older pupils also
getting their soggy morning nappies changed by the
experienced nursing staff.
Of course, the
nappies were aimed mainly for night time security and,
once cleaned up, should they want to return to wearing
padding no one thought any worse if that was the path
taken. It was a regular sight, observing boys walking
back to their rooms wearing thick padding and plastic or
rubber pants. The school uniform was worn to breakfast
after which the boys had fifteen minutes before lessons
began.
Simon opted for
safety in these new, strange surroundings so wore a
thick nappy and sparkling white shiny plastic pants
under his shorts. He felt comforted and because everyone
was so friendly, couldn’t wait to start the term in this
innovative and exciting environment.
Of course, as a
nine year old, he didn’t actually see it in those terms.
What he did feel was this place was special and
although, on that first weekend he was unsure, the
friendliness of the place made it easy to forget any of
his preliminary worries.
Thoughts of his
busy parents fleetingly stayed with him and the regrets
of not being with them also short-lived. He soon found
his life was full of excitement and surprises, fun and
learning, friendship and socialising, he hardly had a
minute to himself that didn’t engage him in something of
interest or entertainment.
When he arrived
at his first lesson he was happily surprised to discover
he wasn’t the only boy who had chosen to wear
protection. About half of the twenty boys he would be
studying with had also gone for that option. As the day
progressed, and he saw more and more boys out and about,
moving from lesson to lesson, or playing out during the
breaks he noticed that probably 90% of all the older
boys wore shorts and of them, perhaps 50% wore
undisguised padding.
As he looked
around at the noisy but happy group of students he was
pleased his parents had decided on this place. He’d
never been to such a friendly school before where even
the teachers were sociable and joined in with the kid’s
conversations and games. No matter how shy or reticent
no child was left on their own, or left out of any
proceedings. Everyone had a voice and encouraged to make
it heard.
It was a place
where making friends was easy, in fact, it was one of
the top commendations to all students. Any competition
between various groups was kept to the sports field but
then whether winners or losers, all were back together
to celebrate.
Education was
fun, with time to explore and discuss rather than repeat
and remember.
Creative
development was also high on the list of priorities,
where even the youngest boys were encouraged to show
their fledgling talent.
The entire
system of Beaumont Hall was to help create, guide and
encourage each pupil’s innate personal power; to achieve
what was best for them rather than fill the needs of an
arbitrary curriculum. Self-motivation was also
encouraged but not at the expense of anyone else... the
bonding of all the boys to each other and under the care
and direction of the school was unique and rarely
repeated in any other educational establishment.
Night time
nappies and morning changes were social rather than
embarrassing affairs where everyone was equal. The staff
was encouraging, efficient but above all, friendly. No
one got special treatment - no one got a different nappy
(except if extra protection was called for) but there
was a choice of covers if you had a preference or
allergic to a certain material.
Simon woke up
each morning, and whether wet or not, was instantly
excited about the day ahead... he knew it would be
brilliant. That was the thing about Beaumont Hall the
motto said everything - Be kind to one another
- and he’d found a place where that
was a code everyone lived by.
Of course, not
everyone wore a nappy. Other than the induction period
the boys were allowed to wear what they found
comfortable. However, it was true that over the years a
preference for thick protection and the wearing of
shorts had become a sort of badge of honour. Those who
were lucky enough to be educated at Beaumont Hall wore
their unique uniform with pride because of what the
school and its academic and social awareness generated.
Being a pupil at
Beaumont Hall did set you apart from any other
educational institution and the uniform was part of
that. There was little vanity in a teenager wearing
shorts when they had the option to wear long trousers.
There was little vanity in wearing padding at any age
past being a toddler. Yet the ethos of the school meant
that despite these possible barriers, the pupils had
decided what they thought was best for them and adopted
the uniform you now see. No one was made to wear shorts
except as part of the under thirteen’s dress uniform...
to everyone else it was a choice.
It was choice
that made the school so important. It was choice that
made the students that bit more independent. It was
choice that equipped everyone with the knowledge that a
boy can achieve anything... even if he does so whilst
wearing a nappy.
Many ex-pupils
who achieved fame and fortune were thankful for what
Beaumont Hall offered. It had helped in social
interaction with others setting them apart from their
peers from some of the more, expensive, privileged and
self-aggrandised public schools.
It was not
unheard of that the love of protection and the security
such padding offered was also not something that was
jettisoned by many of the school’s students. As Simon
would find out over his stay, the feeling such an item
instilled was an elusive yet comforting factor
throughout his school years.
Nappies, though
not for everyone and often frowned upon by some were, as
far as students who had been educated at Beaumont Hall,
an actual positive in their lives and one that they
chose not to give up easily... if at all.
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